This is a tiny book but important, for me. For a person used to be alone, not very sociable, looks like being alone is a curse, due to different social pressures. And it is easy to feel bad about it. And I am not the first one saying this. This is not to say that you must be alone, that being alone is the best thing ever. The contrary, it is making the most of it. We have only one life, alone or not, make the best of it.
Being happy with yourself, is being happy being with you, your thoughts
We dont hate being alone. We hate to believe that we have been left behind. But there is nothing wrong with us. Being alone is part of the game of life. Things come and go. You can control it, you need to be prepared for any outcome.
Loneliness means being yourself with sympathy and misery, but remember nothing is wrong with you.
This reminds me to El Quijote… we subconsciously (and I know I am there) are convinced that one day someone day will come to save us, rescue us, to love us. We choose to be rescued or being the victime (and that is cruel to ourselves), but life is not a movie, comic, book, etc. We have all the tools to rescue ourselves. No excuses.
You need to know-yourself, the good and bad things, nobody is perfect. And this interest is for your whole life. Define who you are and/or who you are not. That may you to realize that all those “social” things, are not up to your standard or definition.
Learn to define your definition of everything. Don’t make your life a wish list of what you think everyone has.
One thing at each time. Action is the cure for almost everything.
Make your alone time addictive. What is the one thing you do every day to make yourself happy? For this you need self-awareness. And learn a new skill, although if it just takes 15 minutes a day! And read books!