{"id":659,"date":"2021-04-25T21:03:42","date_gmt":"2021-04-25T20:03:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.thomarite.uk\/?p=659"},"modified":"2021-04-25T21:03:42","modified_gmt":"2021-04-25T20:03:42","slug":"a-solas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.thomarite.uk\/index.php\/2021\/04\/25\/a-solas\/","title":{"rendered":"A Solas"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

A very good friend recommend me this book<\/a>. And I actually needed to read something about it. Being alone is normal for me. It is one of the reasons I can do all I want at the end of the day. But still, I am a human being and you need some interaction. The last months have been tough because work, lockdown and my lack of communication skills. But mainly work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This book has been a reminder from others books I have read from Rafael Santandreu that really changed a lot of thing about me. It was really helpful. It got me to my next stage in life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But again, sometimes you have to remember why you believe in what you believe. Being alone, being solitary in general is seen as something bad\/negative by society directly or indirectly (family, friends, books, movies, music, etc) And then we add our own judgement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I need to recognize my main reason to be alone is the fear of rejection. Mainly with girls.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But in the last years I learned to love myself as I am, to be happy as I am, to be comfortable as I am, to be content with my life, to be content to be alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have read in many places that if you are not happy with yourself, how you can be happy with somebody else? I truly believe in that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And once those concepts took hold me, I felt better and even managed to find a girlfriend and live together! Difficult to believe some time ago, but happened. And it happened because I was comfortable being alone, I was enjoying my life. Again, I am not the most sociable person, and I used to punish me for that. But I accepted that is nothing wrong with that, you remove a lot of negative from you. Then you walk lighter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And this book’s focus in being alone and relationships. And for me it is very clear that I prefer to be alone that in bad company. But I need to make the effort to open up, not being afraid. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So it is a question of balance, extremes are rarely good. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And this is the book all about: find the pleasure being alone, love yourself and whatever comes, it comes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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